> Instead it stutters along from one step to the next. Like counting off steps when dancing. My dance instructor, a master dancer, said that for dancing the ke

> Instead it stutters along from one step to the next. Like counting off steps when dancing. My dance instructor, a master dancer, said that for dancing the key is you need a MAP: 1. Memorize 2. Automate 3. Personalize Memorize the steps and commit them to memory. Then automate them so you can do them without thinking. Then personalize and add your own flourishes. It’s a matter of mastery and practice. This is true both for dancing and for dealing with emotionally charged situations, and for pretty much anything that you haven’t yet mastered.