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"Your crap is crap, get outta my sight" So this doesn't offend you? If someone is able to talk with you like that at your workplace that's really bad...constan
by going_to_800 8y ago
"Your crap is crap, get outta my sight"
So this doesn't offend you? If someone is able to talk with you like that at your workplace that's really bad...constantly or not.
- LandR 8y agoIf someone says to me "your crap is crap, get outta my sight" then maybe I need to evaluate if what i created is in fact actual "crap". If it's not crap, then why the fuck do I care if someone else thinks it is. If it isn't, then I can justify all the decisions that were made and why they were made and why the result behaves as it does. If i can't then that's a problem, and that problem is on me to fix. Why am I making "crap" ? Is this maybe an age thing? Is this a problem with young people needing to be handled with kid gloves? Never mind the fact that if someone can say to me "your crap is crap, get outta my sight" then we obviously have an environment where I can tell that person to go fuck themselves. Jesus people have some self esteem / self confidence.
- going_to_800 8y agoOh man...this is cringey. So it's nothing wrong when somebody is talking with you like that? Doesn't give you a hint how much that person respects you? Maybe some of you guys here are just used to be pushed around...but if that's ok with you, fine.
- LandR 8y ago>> Doesn't give you a hint how much that person respects you? SOmeone that talks to me (or anyone) like that, why should I want their respect? Shrug it off and ignore them, or tell them to fuck off. They people aren't worth your time or any form of emotional investment. BUt occasionally they might be right, yhou might have fucked up and I think it's important, regardless of the delivery, to look at criticism objectively.
- wilsonnb 8y agoIt's not that you should want that specific persons respect, it's that you should want a person who respects you instead of one who doesn't.
- fr0stt 8y agoIt's cringey to self evaluate over bringing a simple issue to management? TIL. There's a good chance that their criticism may be warranted despite the way they presented it and your sensitivities.
- BeetleB 8y agoWhy is it expected that you sit and evaluate your output (code/product/whatever), and they do not have to evaluate their output (behavior)? If he is not willing to act responsibly and maturely, why is he expecting others to? I can accept a workplace where I have to evaluate why I produced crap, provided they have to evaluate their behavior and deal with the fact that they are creating a toxic culture.
- ianhowson 8y ago"Your crap is crap" is a shortcut for any confrontation that occurs in a workplace, most of which would not be considered offensive or HR-worthy. Mentally insert a scenario that you personally experienced that made you feel the way the speaker describes. Maybe someone gave you negative code review comments that you disagreed with?