4 ms·

> I wish I was in college again, because I really miss the vibrant social life I had back then. i've found it much easier to maintain a "vibrant social life" i

by exit 8y ago

> I wish I was in college again, because I really miss the vibrant social life I had back then. i've found it much easier to maintain a "vibrant social life" in a city. do you live in the suburbs, or somewhere even less densely populated?

amyjess 8y ago
I live in the suburbs, and I strongly prefer it here. Cities are cramped, noisy, dirty, and crime-riddled. I love having lots of space, and I'd honestly rather kill myself than live in an apartment ever again. And the last time I even _worked_ in the city (2014), I was subject to constant street harassment by homeless people begging for money and getting angry when I didn't pay them, and I was terrified I was going to get raped and killed some day. If not having a vibrant social life is the price I pay for living in a place that doesn't make me want to kill myself, then I'll go ahead and pay that price. I miss having a vibrant social life, but I'd take not having one over not living in the burbs.
- exit 8y ago
  > Cities are cramped, noisy, dirty, and crime-riddled. okay, the disconnect here may be that i live in europe, and you live in ...i'd guess north america? > It doesn't help that I have no interest in getting married or having children. In fact, the idea of either sickens me. So as everybody else is pairing off to get married or spending 99% of their free time taking care of kids, I'm stuck by myself. I just wish I had more single (and preferably asexual) friends to hang with. suburbs are indeed optimised for numerous things you're not up for; this is a difficult problem to solve. > If not having a vibrant social life is the price I pay for living in a place that doesn't make me want to kill myself, then I'll go ahead and pay that price. things can eat away at you quietly. not having a vibrant social life may not confrontationally make you want to kill yourself, the way the other serious issues you've mentioned do, but it can erode moral and have cascading negative effects on your mental health. we aren't all built the same though, so ymmv.

by exit 8y ago

amyjess 8y ago

I live in the suburbs, and I strongly prefer it here. Cities are cramped, noisy, dirty, and crime-riddled. I love having lots of space, and I'd honestly rather kill myself than live in an apartment ever again. And the last time I even _worked_ in the city (2014), I was subject to constant street harassment by homeless people begging for money and getting angry when I didn't pay them, and I was terrified I was going to get raped and killed some day. If not having a vibrant social life is the price I pay for living in a place that doesn't make me want to kill myself, then I'll go ahead and pay that price. I miss having a vibrant social life, but I'd take not having one over not living in the burbs.

exit 8y ago
> Cities are cramped, noisy, dirty, and crime-riddled. okay, the disconnect here may be that i live in europe, and you live in ...i'd guess north america? > It doesn't help that I have no interest in getting married or having children. In fact, the idea of either sickens me. So as everybody else is pairing off to get married or spending 99% of their free time taking care of kids, I'm stuck by myself. I just wish I had more single (and preferably asexual) friends to hang with. suburbs are indeed optimised for numerous things you're not up for; this is a difficult problem to solve. > If not having a vibrant social life is the price I pay for living in a place that doesn't make me want to kill myself, then I'll go ahead and pay that price. things can eat away at you quietly. not having a vibrant social life may not confrontationally make you want to kill yourself, the way the other serious issues you've mentioned do, but it can erode moral and have cascading negative effects on your mental health. we aren't all built the same though, so ymmv.