I don’t disagree and my closest friends have recently dropped because I hit a bump in my career and/or politics (ostrasized from offices, destroyed resume), it

I don’t disagree and my closest friends have recently dropped because I hit a bump in my career and/or politics (ostrasized from offices, destroyed resume), it was pretty hurtful for a while. “Your network is your net worth,” makes me want to not even go interpersonal again but I think an expectation realignment is a better path, invest more broadly. I’ve also gotten more into meditation/study again but lack of benign social interaction shows. In our city of origin we were a fraction of the passionate programmers so we stuck together, now all in SF there are more dimensions (eg. my new connections are primarily from fitness activities, service staff met at concerts or high end lounges). I wish I had people I felt I could trust like a friend again though, and also understood+got excited by the nerdy stuff. Everyone has their hustles. Takes time I suppose, a couple people I know could turn to friends. Hacker Dojo 1.0 was awesome, seems like hacker spaces have more general appeal now, can’t imagine parties like that again... but I do still know a handful from that era, 1-2 could be friends. I am connecting with relatives, feeling silly for neglecting them for 20 years. Anecdotes, hopefully helpful and not too self-focused.