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Having just turned 31 recently, this read hits hard with my own experiences. From time to time I worry I'll end up languishing in old age due to loneliness with
by miqkt 8y ago
Having just turned 31 recently, this read hits hard with my own experiences. From time to time I worry I'll end up languishing in old age due to loneliness without a network of supportive friends.
Some seem to reiterate the importance of time investment into the search for new friends. I agree with this. The more you put yourself out there, the odds would hopefully be more in your favour. However, the guarantee of the outcome isn't there. One could spend hours, days, months joining various hobby and interest groups with such an agenda and still end up with nothing.
It's almost like after a certain age, new friendships become more incentivised. The friendship itself only exists because it can be rationalised with mutual benefits.
- oceanman888 8y agoBefore that certain age, we do not "try" to make friends. We live with them physically. Turns out human are not that suited to "look for friends" when they actually need them.
- objplant 8y agoI would suggest not to join a hobby, interest group etc. with an agenda of making friends. I think such a plan might create some unnecessary mental pressure on one's behaviour. On the other hand if you join a group with a topic that really interests you, chances are you'll be sorrounded with at least some like-minded people. And then, if you casually fall into a conversation with someone, then you grab the opportunity for making an acquaintance. And that person might some day turn into a friend.