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I think this is a class-driven norm. I grew up in a poor neighborhood and dropping by unannounced was the norm. If you called beforehand, it was likely just to
by bmpafa 8y ago
I think this is a class-driven norm. I grew up in a poor neighborhood and dropping by unannounced was the norm. If you called beforehand, it was likely just to make sure your pal was even home.
Overall, I think most trappings of etiquette fade away as you climb down the socioeconomic ladder (I think rich folk have a lot to learn from poor here, fwiw).
- sykh 8y agoThat’s a good point. I’m in the white middle class socio economic class in the Midwest and my experience definitely is clouded by this fact.
- icanhackit 8y ago> I grew up in a poor neighborhood and dropping by unannounced was the norm. Same and I think you're onto something, but my childhood predated mobile phones. I've watched my nephew, who's from a fairly affluent family, call out to his friend who lives next door to come play. They'll chat to each other over the fence and then negotiate with their parents on where they can go play. Neither have mobile phones and I doubt either have used a landline (or have one) so yelling over the fence or knocking on the door seems like the most straightforward approach. I think phones were the tipping point which changed behaviours - from most people being fairly OK with unannounced or very loosely planned visits (I'll see you Wednesday! == 7:30pm, Wednesday) to requiring a heads up in the form of a call or instant message.
- astura 8y agoSame here unannounced was pretty normal.