You can't affect her being offended. All you can do is respond to it. Yes, maybe Kara should be less defensive, but that's not something you have control over;

You can't affect her being offended. All you can do is respond to it. Yes, maybe Kara should be less defensive, but that's not something you have control over; and trying to argue your way into convincing someone to not be offended is only going to make things worse