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I don't think it's possible to build a complete life at her age. Even at 30 I already felt that every new move was me giving up on something. You can't "catch-u

• mercer 8y ago
  On the one hand I agree, and it's been one of the few reasons I've tried (with moderate success) to not be too nomadic. But at the same time I think friendship is a varied and complex enough thing that thankfully it's not entirely about time/tending, and if the nomadism doesn't mask an underlying problem, it doesn't preclude having a 'complete' life. Some of my best friendships were almost clear from the beginning, and required little 'tending'. Others I have tended diligently only to realize that while they were good, and the tending helped, they'd never be as strong as the former. Sometimes losing them didn't affect me much. Some of my friendships even seem to have suffered from 'over-tending', a bit like how moving in with a friend can ruin things. All that said, you're probably more right than not. Just saying :).