Because you stopped, there's something in it. You know it. It's the fellow human being without a place to spend the night that you can't ignore. What separates

Because you stopped, there's something in it. You know it. It's the fellow human being without a place to spend the night that you can't ignore. What separates you two are names, roots, jobs, hobbies: all of them external things. But you see yourself in the couple because you're the same as them. Whatever you offer them, there's only so much you can do. So, do set limits. If you buy them five nights at some hostel then make it clear that it's absolutely only five nights. At some point, everyone prefers the easy way if only there's a chance. If you give them something, it's your responsibility to limit the offer to some amount so that they can't give in to the lazy mode and expect to get more. They will ask for more, certainly, maybe two times, and they might even call you names because you then refuse. It's perfectly ok. Helping people isn't about ensuring that they're happy so that you can be, too: it's about giving them choice they didn't have earlier. If they choose to spend the time at the hostel wisely, they might sort out some of their things and find a job or a more permanent place. If they just chill out for a week and ask for more, it would be unsustainable and disadvantageous for both them and you to continue that way. But you can reach out now and see what happens. I'm so touched by your desire to help. I hope things work out somehow.