"But, no, when you ask someone whether they're really going to be able to take care of their kids and handle the demands of the job you're interviewing them for

"But, no, when you ask someone whether they're really going to be able to take care of their kids and handle the demands of the job you're interviewing them for, you're clearly not being an equal-opportunity douchebag." Funny enough, I'm at home right now taking care of the kids/wife because of the latter's massive migraine. This is putting two projects at work behind. So here's an example of a male that could arguably be said to not be "handl[ing] the demands of the job", for a narrow definition. I'm glad to be able to do this, though I know it does have consequences, and it may be seen by people with less family responsibilities as unfair. Althought it's still way more common for handling "the kids stuff" to be heaped on the wife's shoulders, more and more the men are stepping up. (notes: 1. assumption of household with married man and woman. I know there are other arrangements. 2. Don't mean to take tptacek's quote out of context--clearly he was disparaging interview questions that are sexist/illegal.)