I can totally relate. If I could "do it again", I would respect myself first, and realize that until I got myself out of such circumstances, the rest of my lif

I can totally relate. If I could "do it again", I would respect myself first, and realize that until I got myself out of such circumstances, the rest of my life was not going to advance. I had years, decades of people telling me I "just need to get used to it". And I tried. And tried. And tried. And tore myself up more and more, inside. And missed out on many things. Work. Social life. Everything. Find comfortable, dare I say "nurturing" circumstances for yourself. That's the only way, I now believe, that the rest improves. Look at other people's reactions. If they see you stressed, uncomfortable, etc. If they think you aren't taking care of yourself. You may get a moment's expressed "sympathy", but then they will avoid you. Wishing you better circumstances -- or rather, the presence and coherence of mind and emotion to get yourself to them.