"respectfully" wasn't meant as an excuse, but to mean just that - a suggestion offered with respect that the OP is free to do whatever they damn well please. I

"respectfully" wasn't meant as an excuse, but to mean just that - a suggestion offered with respect that the OP is free to do whatever they damn well please. I completely accept that I could have worded it more softly / indirectly / anecdotally. Tone on the internet is hard!