False dichotomy: either you have shit code or you coddle the feelings of your junior dev, which you helpfully outed as female for no reason. There is a way to

False dichotomy: either you have shit code or you coddle the feelings of your junior dev, which you helpfully outed as female for no reason. There is a way to have high standards, not be an asshole, and not "coddle" people. As they say, it's not what you say, but how you say it. This usually comes up with new employees because they haven't learned that one senior dev on your team "has a heart of gold" even if they are a super-asshole in text. "Everyone knows he just cares so much about the code." Already heard it. Don't forget there's a long history of men talking down to women and using what seems like neutral language, but subtext that implies that she's incompetent, doesn't deserve the job, slept her way to the top, etc, etc. Clearly though, you've decided that the problem is her. Hopefully she found a more supportive team elsewhere.