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No one claimed the answer was offensive. It's unnecessarily condescending though. If you, as a senior developer, spoke to a junior developer on their first day

No one claimed the answer was offensive. It's unnecessarily condescending though. If you, as a senior developer, spoke to a junior developer on their first day at a new job in the same way, they'd be very unlikely to come to you for help in the future. Learning how to interpret error messages and extract the important information is a skill. What may seem obvious to you may not be obvious to someone with barely any experience. > was just a standard dry answer like you hear at any top university everywhere Which makes it OK? If university lecturers are speaking to new students trying to learn in this way, they shouldn't be teaching new students.

bitL 8y ago
I had gazillion encounters when senior engineers/managers were unbelievably condescending, especially when they saw a capable competitor in you. The keyword is resilience, are you going to gain this virtue, or are you going to complain everywhere and cry on all available shoulders, and then once you get what you wanted, start backstabbing anyone that helped you to keep them down and forget about what put you there? I was one of those "useful idiots" that was helping to my utmost capacity others, wasting time I could have spent working on bigger projects helping humanity. Every single case when those people got what they wanted stopped recognizing me and called me only when they needed something. I am no longer than person. If you really want something, work on it to the full extent of your own capabilities, get ready to be beaten from left and right and figure out how to move forward. Don't expect help from around you. When somebody shows generosity to you, treat it as a wonderful bonus you try to return somehow someday, not a requirement.
- jsmeaton 8y ago
  > If you really want something, work on it to the full extent of your own capabilities, get ready to be beaten from left and right and figure out how to move forward. Don't expect help from around you. This should not be an expectation of the world, and I'm sorry you've had the experiences you've had to see it as such. This is exactly what people are complaining about when they say tech is hostile. It's not just hostile to minorities, it can be hostile to everybody. We can choose to do unto others, or we can choose to break that cycle and be more welcoming. If you're unable to do this on stackoverflow, then may I suggest you don't participate.
  - bitL 8y ago
    Frankly, resilience is necessity. The better you are, the more you are eclipsing the others, the stronger averse reaction you get everywhere. People could be your best friends until you escape their crab bucket, then you are suddenly a well-known enemy and rumors start spreading. I am no longer going out of my way to help those people; I believe they deserve where they are as they chose to stay in the bucket of their own loathing. But I am not going to be nasty to them at all. Their kids still have potential, so those are treated without indifference.

bitL 8y ago

I had gazillion encounters when senior engineers/managers were unbelievably condescending, especially when they saw a capable competitor in you. The keyword is resilience, are you going to gain this virtue, or are you going to complain everywhere and cry on all available shoulders, and then once you get what you wanted, start backstabbing anyone that helped you to keep them down and forget about what put you there? I was one of those "useful idiots" that was helping to my utmost capacity others, wasting time I could have spent working on bigger projects helping humanity. Every single case when those people got what they wanted stopped recognizing me and called me only when they needed something. I am no longer than person. If you really want something, work on it to the full extent of your own capabilities, get ready to be beaten from left and right and figure out how to move forward. Don't expect help from around you. When somebody shows generosity to you, treat it as a wonderful bonus you try to return somehow someday, not a requirement.

jsmeaton 8y ago
> If you really want something, work on it to the full extent of your own capabilities, get ready to be beaten from left and right and figure out how to move forward. Don't expect help from around you. This should not be an expectation of the world, and I'm sorry you've had the experiences you've had to see it as such. This is exactly what people are complaining about when they say tech is hostile. It's not just hostile to minorities, it can be hostile to everybody. We can choose to do unto others, or we can choose to break that cycle and be more welcoming. If you're unable to do this on stackoverflow, then may I suggest you don't participate.
- bitL 8y ago
  Frankly, resilience is necessity. The better you are, the more you are eclipsing the others, the stronger averse reaction you get everywhere. People could be your best friends until you escape their crab bucket, then you are suddenly a well-known enemy and rumors start spreading. I am no longer going out of my way to help those people; I believe they deserve where they are as they chose to stay in the bucket of their own loathing. But I am not going to be nasty to them at all. Their kids still have potential, so those are treated without indifference.