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there is no stigma, there is a stereotype, and it is individual's choice whether to live up to it. I don't know a single guy in tech who had trouble getting dat

there is no stigma, there is a stereotype, and it is individual's choice whether to live up to it. I don't know a single guy in tech who had trouble getting dates or socializing with people through the fault of anything but their own. There is no stigma against people in tech, there is a stigma against a certain type of person that is easily found in (but not limited to) tech. A lot of people live up to the stereotype though, and that's where the author of the article is coming from. To repeat a saying I heard a lot during my undergrad at a Stem-heavy school that had male-dominated ratio - "The odds are good, but the goods are odd."

robocat 9y ago
> there is no stigma I think there is a stigma. When single I remember the intense look of an interested girl, that switched off at hearing what my job was. However, I also think that is offset by some positive bias towards looking for wrll paid professional partners. The stigma exists. I do think it is fairly easy to avoid its effects (don't be the "undesirable" stereotype). I also think most jobs have a stigma, with negative reactions from some people. If someone only sees you as your job, that is their problem!
- tstrimple 9y ago
  > When single I remember the intense look of an interested girl, that switched off at hearing what my job was. Maybe try telling her you’re a plumber and seeing what the reaction is as a comparison.
  - ams6110 9y ago
    The plumbers I know all have pretty hot wives. Not sophisticated, for the most part, but quite attractive by mainstream American standards
    - voodooranger 9y ago
      Because they know how to lay pipe
- ams6110 9y ago
  Yeah I've been in tech for 30 years and have worked with hundreds of people and I can't recall a single one who wasn't a nerd or geek in some way.
skookumchuck 9y ago
> there is no stigma, there is a stereotype For this thread, there is no difference.

robocat 9y ago

> there is no stigma I think there is a stigma. When single I remember the intense look of an interested girl, that switched off at hearing what my job was. However, I also think that is offset by some positive bias towards looking for wrll paid professional partners. The stigma exists. I do think it is fairly easy to avoid its effects (don't be the "undesirable" stereotype). I also think most jobs have a stigma, with negative reactions from some people. If someone only sees you as your job, that is their problem!

tstrimple 9y ago
> When single I remember the intense look of an interested girl, that switched off at hearing what my job was. Maybe try telling her you’re a plumber and seeing what the reaction is as a comparison.
- ams6110 9y ago
  The plumbers I know all have pretty hot wives. Not sophisticated, for the most part, but quite attractive by mainstream American standards
  - voodooranger 9y ago
    Because they know how to lay pipe
ams6110 9y ago
Yeah I've been in tech for 30 years and have worked with hundreds of people and I can't recall a single one who wasn't a nerd or geek in some way.

skookumchuck 9y ago

> there is no stigma, there is a stereotype For this thread, there is no difference.