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> As a male engineer I'd be happy to spend half the time going around and chatting, listening, massaging and organizing games to help colleages / team mates des
by KKKKkkkk1 9y ago
> As a male engineer I'd be happy to spend half the time going around and chatting, listening, massaging and organizing games to help colleages / team mates destress and feel energized and motivated.
As a gay engineer, I doubt that if a man came over and started doing those things to you, you would feel energized and motivated. That hopefully gives you an idea why workplace norms in the modern world are the way they are.
- taneq 9y agoYou mean assuming he's not gay? Or do shoulder rubs from a hot guy not make you feel good? I'd assume (or at least hope!) they ask your preference before sending you some eye candy.
- yorwba 9y agoAs an aromantic man, I do feel more energized and motivated after a chat or a card game with my (mostly male) colleagues. I'm somewhat averse to body contact, so I wouldn't make use of a massager, but so long as it's just an extra perk like a Googly ball-bath (they have those, right?), I don't see the problem. Not being sexually attracted to someone doesn't mean that their company won't be refreshing or even uncomfortable. I think that's much more a matter of personality, and gender is only a secondary factor in whether you'll find someone likable or not.
- braindouche 9y agoAs a gay woman engineer, I've always had the policy that, while I'm at work, any part of you that touches me, I get to keep. What ever happened to that fad where an animal shelter would release a flock of puppies in your office for an afternoon? I'd be into that.
- codedokode 9y agoWell, you could send a gay person to play games and do massage to programmers who are least productive. I'm sure they will become enough motivated not to fail the next deadline.