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Moving to a country with a different culture and language may help overcome the symptoms. If parents fight using a specific language, aggressive tones and swear

by dhekir 8y ago

Moving to a country with a different culture and language may help overcome the symptoms. If parents fight using a specific language, aggressive tones and swear words are more easily associated to that language. "Resetting" to a neutral state in a different language can help dissociating everyday words from the negative memories. Also, in different cultures people's faces and expressions may be markedly different, forcing the person to have to re-learn to interpret them. Again, supposing that on average exposure to people will be more neutral that in a home of disputing parents, the relearning process should tend to have a positive effect. This is likely to be stronger the more "alien" the new culture/language is, because a more radical relearning will be necessary.

egonschiele 8y ago
Are you speaking from experience? I never had this issue before, but I moved to a different culture and now I do feel like everyone is angry all the time. > forcing the person to have to re-learn to interpret them I've been in said new culture for almost 20 years and haven't done this re-learning, so I don't have high hopes
- mieseratte 8y ago
  I've had a bit of this experience where lyrics that in my native language would be cringe worthy don't seem to have that same emotional connotation in a foreign language.
- YeGoblynQueenne 8y ago
  I kind of get the opposite. I'm Greek but have been living in the UK for 12 years. It's really remarkable how much more people smile at you here in situations where you wouldn't expect anyone to smile, back home. For instance, anyone who is offering a service or selling something is smiling, here. Back home, I find that people tend to smile when they meet friends or acquaintances, but not when they service total strangers. In fact, a merchant that always smiles would probably come across as dishonest. People tend to consider social smiles to be fake smiles and I think they try to avoid them so as to not look distrustful. The effect this had on me is that when I go back home, or when I'm serviced by non-British staff who may not have been long enougn in the UK to pick up the habit, I sometimes find myself wondering why they are being so brusque. Which is not at all the case. People aren't impolite when they don't go out of their way to put a smile on everything. They're just acting neutrally. Edit: Oh and I've been on the other end of this myself- when colleagues complained that I was treating them with disrespect when I was just ...not smiling :)
  - egonschiele 8y ago
    I guess that explains it ... I'm from India (lots of smiles) moved to the US (fewer smiles).

by dhekir 8y ago

egonschiele 8y ago

Are you speaking from experience? I never had this issue before, but I moved to a different culture and now I do feel like everyone is angry all the time. > forcing the person to have to re-learn to interpret them I've been in said new culture for almost 20 years and haven't done this re-learning, so I don't have high hopes

mieseratte 8y ago
I've had a bit of this experience where lyrics that in my native language would be cringe worthy don't seem to have that same emotional connotation in a foreign language.
YeGoblynQueenne 8y ago
I kind of get the opposite. I'm Greek but have been living in the UK for 12 years. It's really remarkable how much more people smile at you here in situations where you wouldn't expect anyone to smile, back home. For instance, anyone who is offering a service or selling something is smiling, here. Back home, I find that people tend to smile when they meet friends or acquaintances, but not when they service total strangers. In fact, a merchant that always smiles would probably come across as dishonest. People tend to consider social smiles to be fake smiles and I think they try to avoid them so as to not look distrustful. The effect this had on me is that when I go back home, or when I'm serviced by non-British staff who may not have been long enougn in the UK to pick up the habit, I sometimes find myself wondering why they are being so brusque. Which is not at all the case. People aren't impolite when they don't go out of their way to put a smile on everything. They're just acting neutrally. Edit: Oh and I've been on the other end of this myself- when colleagues complained that I was treating them with disrespect when I was just ...not smiling :)
- egonschiele 8y ago
  I guess that explains it ... I'm from India (lots of smiles) moved to the US (fewer smiles).