their is an acceptable third person pronoun. its been in use for centuries in English. some 19th century grammarians may have tried to intervene. it is my prefe

their is an acceptable third person pronoun. its been in use for centuries in English. some 19th century grammarians may have tried to intervene. it is my preferred usuage. "her" doesn't bother me at all, or at least no more than "his". but, i guess, some people see the former as political or agenda driven, and the latter as neither. but i suppose that a white person's policy of always addressing a black man with the same honorifics as they would have addressed a white person, might have been considered agenda-driven and ideological by their peers.