We use GitLab on prem at work because we want the features. For private stuff or super small teams I'd chose Gitea as well. And/or GitLab.com. GitLab's perform

We use GitLab on prem at work because we want the features. For private stuff or super small teams I'd chose Gitea as well. And/or GitLab.com. GitLab's performance is a major pain point for us. We throw an absurd amount of hardware at it for mid sized teams.