I don't think there's really any correlation and believe the OP doesn't quite grasp that[1], based on the various work environments I've seen. [I replied just b

I don't think there's really any correlation and believe the OP doesn't quite grasp that[1], based on the various work environments I've seen. [I replied just before on this point at https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=16887247 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=16887247 ] [1] There are various things he could do to improve his "cohesiveness" with team members, without needing to modify likeability. Ideally though, being both likeable and a "team player" would be best but that is more difficult to achieve in the short term than simply getting on with the rest of the crew. Likeability means being able to join in on the after work drinks fun. It has little to do with being able to help others stay productive at work.