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Not just managers, but team-mates as well. People generally would rather be complacent than challenged (I'm no different, of course). And when someone is real
by eadmund 9y ago
Not just managers, but team-mates as well. People generally would rather be complacent than challenged (I'm no different, of course). And when someone is really wrong about something, it gets really old when he is told so over and over.
It's kind of like in a marriage. The man keeps on doing something wrong (forgetting to pay the electricity bill, perhaps) and his wife keeps on pointing it out — and, rather than pay the bill on time, he instead gets angry that she's nagging!
Persuading people gently, leading them slowly but surely to realising for themselves that they've been terribly wrong, is extremely difficult and requires a high degree of social skills. Sometimes, it's simply not possible: sometimes a team-mate (or worse, team lead) has so much invested in an incorrect decision that he will never change his mind; the one's only choices are to live with the malfunction or leave the team.
- hyeomans 9y ago100% agree, through the years I've learned that, as you said, it might be impossible to change and what has helped me is to stand in the shoes of the other person knowing how much they've invested. Related: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sunk_cost https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sunk_cost
- JustSomeNobody 9y agoSometimes I'm wrong. It's great to have a team that can point out why I was wrong and discuss a fix. But I know that I'm not always wrong, so when a developer is constantly telling me that I am wrong about everything, it's really annoying. Those types of people are only doing that because they have to be the smartest person in the room. Usually, however, they're not. They're just the person who has to be. Everyone else understands that different does not equal wrong.