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Hmmm yeah it really does sound like this guy and the company were a bad fit. There is an old joke that after an interview you should ask 3 questions: 1) can s
by rusk 9y ago
Hmmm yeah it really does sound like this guy and the company were a bad fit.
There is an old joke that after an interview you should ask 3 questions:
1) can she do the job
2) can you work with her
3) is she an axe murderer
OP can certainly satisfy one of these criteria but even if they’re okay on (3) not meeting (2) is enough for exclusion.
When you find yourself in a toxic (from your perspective) situation you really only have 2 options. If you decide to stay you have to make the best of the situation and get on with people.
It sounds like OP responded to this situation in a way that probably wasn’t in line with this thinking. It’s all well and good being “right” but such accomplishments are marred quite a bit of you’ve annoyed everybody around you in the process.
I’m speaking as somebody who has been through this cycle a few times and finally settled on “getting on with people” vs “being right” after I got the feeling I'd changed job a few too many times.
The transition in this way of thinking was actually quite painful and I made many slip-ups whereupon people would presume I had slipped back to my old ways and couldn’t change - the scorn still rings in my ears. But eventually I did and now I’m one of those effusive hackers that gets on with people, and just drops into tricky situations as they arise. A highly prized resource it would seem going by how my salary responded.
Anyway, as poor old Janis would say “if you can’t be with the one you love, love the one you’re with”. You’ll be happier and your stress levels, blood pressure, social life and even maybe your payslip will reward you for it.
- rusk 9y agoOne question some eager beavers might be asking is how do I deal with things when I see something that is obviously wrong. It depends, but if it's something that's well established and everybody has learned to live with I note it privately. Then I know where the bodies are buried and if it does become an issue I can point it out pretty quickly. If it's something that's more immediate usually nature will take its course, but if it doesn't usually a quiet word in a tester's ear can elicit the necessary dialogue. With regards to other people being "lazy" and "not fulfilling their role" I prefer to take a position of unconditional positive regard and presume that everybody is busy ... my cardinal rule when making big changes is "cause as little extra work for other people as possible". Keeping people busy is management's responsibility, and if I'm totally going to pull the rug from under something I'll get them on board. If they tell me to leave it alone I leave it alone but I've told them what the issue is and its their problem now, to weigh up and act upon as they see fit.
- jmagoon 9y agoI get the sense that the author of this post is fairly young. It's pretty interesting, if you look at the graph from the Stack Overflow survey of competitiveness vs kinship with your peers, it drops pretty rapidly with experience: https://insights.stackoverflow.com/survey/2018/#connection-and-competition https://insights.stackoverflow.com/survey/2018/#connection-a...