I think part of the problem is the event nature of those things. Currently social people seem to be incredibly event oriented. For me the places that form frie

I think part of the problem is the event nature of those things. Currently social people seem to be incredibly event oriented. For me the places that form friendships are places where people go out of habit. The living room of my student corridor, weekly boyscout meetings and this "club house" at university where people just went to sit on a sofa, drink coffee and talk about mechanical engineering. It matters lot less then if you're little bit shy. And any given occasion doesn't feel as much like wasted effort even if it's fruitless. But for some reason people are not into stuff like this if you suggest it. While same people might cling to their weekly pointless meetups once it's established.