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All that "bullshit" she puts you through is probably her way of trying to figure out if you're someone she could have a relationship with or just another dickhe

by dqpb 9y ago

All that "bullshit" she puts you through is probably her way of trying to figure out if you're someone she could have a relationship with or just another dickhead trying to get laid.

commandlinefan 9y ago
> or just another dickhead trying to get laid. Or just somebody who's really good at lying about it.
xstartup 9y ago
Some guys end up putting their everything (money, reputation, efforts and huge time) and still don't get anything meaningful out of it.
- pmoriarty 9y ago
  "Some guys end up putting their everything (money, reputation, efforts and huge time) and still don't get anything meaningful out of it." Relationships are not a one-way street or a vending machine. You can't expect to just pump in a bunch of time and money and for the product to automatically come popping out. There has to be some chemistry between the two of you... the other person has to actually like you. That takes more than effort, money or time. It takes developing a genuine connection, which in turn usually requires an emotional investment, an opening up to the other person, having shared values, a shared view of the world, perhaps even a sense of humor that the other person finds funny, and so on. Unless, of course, you're just looking to get laid.. in which case a sex worker might be a better use of your money.
  - xstartup 9y ago
    "There has to be some chemistry between the two of you... the other person has to actually like you. That takes more than effort, money or time." Every woman I pursued ended up costing me $1M. There was all chemistry at the start but soon it disappeared. Disappearing love is correlated money transfer from me to them. I've stopped looking for any love. I've accepted does not exist in real world.
    - pmoriarty 9y ago
      There are definitely way too many people (men and women) who are just after money. One of the downsides of being rich is that those kind of people tend to sniff you out and come after whatever they can leech off of you. Being poor, I don't have that problem. If someone likes me, I can be pretty sure they're not after my money.. because I don't have any. That said, with or without money, relationships can start out good and turn sour for many reasons completely unrelated to money. When relationships start, we're often putting on our best face, and the people we're dating only see the positive side of us (and we of them). After a while, unless we have outstanding acting ability (and usually some kind of pathology which keeps us from being genuine with our loved ones), we start to show our true selves to each other.. and we (or they) might not like what we see. That's when relationships can easily fall apart -- especially if both people aren't mature enough to recognize that most relationships require hard work to keep them going in the long run, and aren't committed to doing that work. Communication is especially important at this stage. What am I doing wrong? How can I do better? What do I want out of this relationship? At a fundamental level, are we really compatible? These are questions we have to ask ourselves and each other, but most people are really bad at communicating -- especially with people close to themselves, with people who they feel vulnerable to and who they don't want to hurt.... until they can't take it anymore and things blow up.. but by then it's usually too late to make amends. So, yeah, if things are going wrong for you over and over, and if you or the people you're dating are falling in to recognizable patterns, you might want to start by asking yourself some tough questions.. perhaps with the help of a good therapist. Negative relationship patterns are one of the things a good therapist could really help you to break out of -- in more constructive ways than just giving up.
      - DoreenMichele 9y ago
        Unless you are literally homeless and eating at soup kitchens because you have zero income, then you have some money, even if you aren't rich. There is always someone who can have less than you. I have seen plenty of homeless people used for their money by someone claiming romantic interest, usually women. When I was a homeless woman, I knew a homeless guy who had fantasies I would provide for him in exchange for sex. Yeah, no. I did the homemaker thing and supported my husband's career. It cost me a career. Time is money as they say. I'm divorced and I am still struggling to make ends meet. I'm dirt poor and I very much agree with the GP. Love isn't real.
praha14 9y ago
Why does trying to get laid make one a dickhead? This is slut-shaming.

by dqpb 9y ago

All that "bullshit" she puts you through is probably her way of trying to figure out if you're someone she could have a relationship with or just another dickhead trying to get laid.

commandlinefan 9y ago

> or just another dickhead trying to get laid. Or just somebody who's really good at lying about it.

xstartup 9y ago

Some guys end up putting their everything (money, reputation, efforts and huge time) and still don't get anything meaningful out of it.

pmoriarty 9y ago
"Some guys end up putting their everything (money, reputation, efforts and huge time) and still don't get anything meaningful out of it." Relationships are not a one-way street or a vending machine. You can't expect to just pump in a bunch of time and money and for the product to automatically come popping out. There has to be some chemistry between the two of you... the other person has to actually like you. That takes more than effort, money or time. It takes developing a genuine connection, which in turn usually requires an emotional investment, an opening up to the other person, having shared values, a shared view of the world, perhaps even a sense of humor that the other person finds funny, and so on. Unless, of course, you're just looking to get laid.. in which case a sex worker might be a better use of your money.
- xstartup 9y ago
  "There has to be some chemistry between the two of you... the other person has to actually like you. That takes more than effort, money or time." Every woman I pursued ended up costing me $1M. There was all chemistry at the start but soon it disappeared. Disappearing love is correlated money transfer from me to them. I've stopped looking for any love. I've accepted does not exist in real world.
  - pmoriarty 9y ago
    There are definitely way too many people (men and women) who are just after money. One of the downsides of being rich is that those kind of people tend to sniff you out and come after whatever they can leech off of you. Being poor, I don't have that problem. If someone likes me, I can be pretty sure they're not after my money.. because I don't have any. That said, with or without money, relationships can start out good and turn sour for many reasons completely unrelated to money. When relationships start, we're often putting on our best face, and the people we're dating only see the positive side of us (and we of them). After a while, unless we have outstanding acting ability (and usually some kind of pathology which keeps us from being genuine with our loved ones), we start to show our true selves to each other.. and we (or they) might not like what we see. That's when relationships can easily fall apart -- especially if both people aren't mature enough to recognize that most relationships require hard work to keep them going in the long run, and aren't committed to doing that work. Communication is especially important at this stage. What am I doing wrong? How can I do better? What do I want out of this relationship? At a fundamental level, are we really compatible? These are questions we have to ask ourselves and each other, but most people are really bad at communicating -- especially with people close to themselves, with people who they feel vulnerable to and who they don't want to hurt.... until they can't take it anymore and things blow up.. but by then it's usually too late to make amends. So, yeah, if things are going wrong for you over and over, and if you or the people you're dating are falling in to recognizable patterns, you might want to start by asking yourself some tough questions.. perhaps with the help of a good therapist. Negative relationship patterns are one of the things a good therapist could really help you to break out of -- in more constructive ways than just giving up.
    - DoreenMichele 9y ago
      Unless you are literally homeless and eating at soup kitchens because you have zero income, then you have some money, even if you aren't rich. There is always someone who can have less than you. I have seen plenty of homeless people used for their money by someone claiming romantic interest, usually women. When I was a homeless woman, I knew a homeless guy who had fantasies I would provide for him in exchange for sex. Yeah, no. I did the homemaker thing and supported my husband's career. It cost me a career. Time is money as they say. I'm divorced and I am still struggling to make ends meet. I'm dirt poor and I very much agree with the GP. Love isn't real.

praha14 9y ago

Why does trying to get laid make one a dickhead? This is slut-shaming.