1) Just join it's better jump in the water so to speak, because if you wait a semester more than likely things won't be very different from the way they are now

1) Just join it's better jump in the water so to speak, because if you wait a semester more than likely things won't be very different from the way they are now. 2) The is no catching up so to speak. But the closest thing you can probably is to just show up to all the events, chapter meetings, socials with sororities, and things with your pledge class. Observe and thing will start to come naturally, and don't be afraid so speak up. If I think of the errors people make is trying to hard. Don't try too hard, if you do people will pick up one that and it will back fire. I wasn't always very social, joined a fraternity in college(which wasn't my natural inclination) and was for the first year the only engineer in my fraternity. My senior year there were three of us out of 80 guys. I was eventually VP of my fraternity. So things can totally work out. Honestly I think joining a fraternity can be one of the best things you do. But it's a lot like schools, girls or cars, you need the one that's right for you. Just like startups or companies the culture can be very different. Yes I said culture. Pick one where there are generally good people, there are always asholes in every organization but is almost everyone a ashole or one or two. Just because you join a fraternity you don't have to give in to peer pressure, stand up for what you believe in ultimately when it matters, because a lot of things don't matter. If you want to socialize your self more don't pick a academic fraternity based on what I believe your goals that you described. Look your a hacker mean your smart, mean you can definitely figure things out. Go with the flow, RELAX and don't make a big deal of things in your head, when things don't go as smooth as you like, because in all likely hood your the only one who noticed. Trick number one, none of the other pledges know what their doing either even if they are social don't worry about it. Don't worry about dancing especially, guys never know what they are doing especially in college. If you want any more advice shoot me a email, find it in my profile