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I would say go for it. To catch up socially, just go to a lot of parties and talk to people, but don't try too hard, its OK to be less talkative in your first f
by mburney 16y ago
I would say go for it. To catch up socially, just go to a lot of parties and talk to people, but don't try too hard, its OK to be less talkative in your first few parties, but don't avoid interaction either.
In a frat some guys will like to bust your balls and you will have to come up with quick responses. Don't worry about responding eloquently, you will get better over time. But make sure you don't laugh it off, agree, or self-deprecate...bust their balls back. It is all in good fun. This is how your social skills will improve.
- eru 16y agoBusting balls is a social skill?
- DuncanIdaho 16y agoYou are a lady I presume? Actually I find ball busting a form of art. I know a couple of people that are so good at it that they actually sense your comfort level - and maneuver right below the treshold. This is the kind of people you call when your bored - take them out and beg them to mock you! Actually I find ball busting a human form of: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mNvQ2AC23cg http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mNvQ2AC23cg . It's what young males do to learn about social cause/effect. I find it less damaging to one's personality to what young girls do to each other.
- eru 16y agoMocking is fine. But is there actually content to those fraternities? Any shared interest? Or is it just people hanging out, binge drinking? (Oh, the American drinking age.) I am not from the US. Your presumption about my gender is wrong.
- DuncanIdaho 16y agoI have no idea - I'm not from US. I'm an extreme athlete - and I'm in a circle of "jocks" (most extreme athletes are like that), so I understand how this kind of "young male" groups work and what dynamics are involved.
- gte910h 16y agoIn american culture being able to accept gentle and no so gentle teasing, as well as being able to dish it out is a skill required in typical "masculine" professions and endeavors. It is very useful dealing with people who expect you to take friendly teasing, and it's even more useful to be able to turn it around and tease back (and is a sign of high status individuals in some of those).
- eru 16y agoMocking is fine. But is this the only thing you can do in a fraternity?