It really depends on the frat. If it is a frat that is oriented around academic excellence (are there any of those?) then don't worry... just being in the frat

It really depends on the frat. If it is a frat that is oriented around academic excellence (are there any of those?) then don't worry... just being in the frat will help you in this regard. I think the secret for this whole process is this: Learn to not care about being humiliated. Humiliate yourself, in fact. IF they give you a chance to tell your most embarassing story, do it. And try to do it well. By doing so they will know that the story can't really be used against you, and that you have the guts to tell it. The trick is, people are naturally shy and insecure. Frats and "hazing" are all about getting over that, in a typically hamfisted male-bonding sort of way. If your conscious mind can take control, and if you can be super rational, you can excel socially. Most people your age do not know this, and are afraid. But if you have nothing to fear because you realize that what you're afraid of is really inconsequential, then this gives you immense power. You can actually hack the frat knowing this. The bully whose always picking on you? Well, he's doing so because he's insecure. In fact, he'll telegraph to you what he's insecure about in the nature of his picking on you. Same thing with arrogance. Shy guys? They'll be your best friends if you are nice to them.... you can buy a lot of loyalty with a little bit of niceness. (And loyalty is a valuable currency.) for dealing with crowds, just pick one or two people to focus on-- initially anyone you've had any previous contact with. Don't be clingy, or follow them around, but don't try to relate to everyone. If you walk into a room and know nobody, just walk up to the cutest girl and ask her name. That's it. If she doesn't start talkign to you, or looks nervous or makes an excuse then wait and see if anyone approaches you after a few minutes and if not, just find someone else and introduce yourself.