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If you take a different perspective, the point isn't to see a one-time treatment that cures an illness, the same way you would with medication and surgery. In t
by ljm 9y ago
If you take a different perspective, the point isn't to see a one-time treatment that cures an illness, the same way you would with medication and surgery. In that sense death is a cure for anything and it's a total cop-out.
I've made two attempts on my own life in the past decade and I'm incredibly grateful that I didn't get the realistic 'cure' I was looking for in those brief moments; in fact it could barely be considered a cure at all, especially if you believe in things such as karma and reincarnation (and this is true for many folk).
Acceptance gives you the opportunity to enjoy your life while still being aware that there are times and situations where you really struggle and you've got to take care of yourself through them. You can take various steps to pull yourself out of the rabbit hole, even if only for a while, and get a better understanding of how you can manage your triggers or become more resilient to them. It might be a lifelong struggle, or you become resilient enough that you can deal with the dark moments really well or even sidestep them entirely by noticing certain feelings coming up. This means you still feel like a human being with a full spectrum of emotions without having them medicated or repressed out of existence.
The key thing in stories like these is that often the person suffering the depression (or similar mental illness) is motivated to do something they would never have thought of before (or been too afraid of). It's not really staving anything off because if you reframe it, what you're seeing are these creative, beautiful and inspired acts to embrace life like they never did before. Travelling, skydiving, adventure, art, music, going to the cinema alone, meditating, volunteering...
These remedies are otherwise known as 'being alive' and they're an incredible reaction to the often temporary desire to shuffle off the mortal coil. And what's better is that you can very easily enrich the lives of others as well as your own in the process, no matter what darkness is lurking deep inside you. If, with your depression or your mental trauma, you manage to live a full life anyway, then wasn't that as good as a cure, if not better? It's even better than managing it.
This is just how it feels for me anyway; I've been dealing with complex PTSD for a long time and, in the most twisted way, I can say that my life became far more enriched through my efforts to work through that. In that sense I think seeing death as the only cure is an insane trivialization of the matter.
- rotexo 9y agoWith you 100% on acceptance. Just to add to the record: in my experience, medication (at its best) hasn’t numbed me, more that it gives me a window to recognize what I’m feeling, which has helped me to continue pursuing the things that I value. YMMV, of course.
- ljm 9y agoIt totally depends on what you're dealing with and where you're at :) Being on Prozac for the best part of a year helped me out for sure, in terms of keeping me going and not giving in, which in turn led me on to other things. I don't see it as the entire solution or a lifelong treatment (you can't medicate enjoyment and fulfilment) but it can be very effective at giving you an opening or a boost into something new, and in all fairness you can't just suddenly accept, like you're flicking a switch and you're okay with everything. That window is incredibly important.