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If you have been working hard for 20 years to achieve some goals (like proficiency level, career, wealth, or something like that), and now being mostly content
by ordu 9y ago
If you have been working hard for 20 years to achieve some goals (like proficiency level, career, wealth, or something like that), and now being mostly content with your current achievements you are questioning goals themselves, then you a here. Probably.
If the cause of questions is a lack of achievements, than it may be not the existential crisis, but something else.
Existential crisis is the good one, it means that you grown above your goals and now you can find new ones. But it feels bad, like any other crisis.
- itchyjunk 9y agoCould you elaborate on the "but something else" for lack of achievements? what are those and why are their lack a bad thing?
- ordu 9y agoI meant that psychologists distinguish one more crisis, which caused by a dissonance between great plans for a life of ~20 years old person and his/her real results at ~30. At this crisis people tends to make radical changes in their life and this crisis may look like existential, but it isn't. It has its own name, but I can't find it (I can literally translate from Russian and get "achievement crisis", but I cannot find it in Wikipedia, and too lazy to search other sources). So achievements are any objectives, which are significant for the person. The problem with this crisis is a relativity of the "lack of achievements". Life can be pretty good, but nevertheless worse than expected ten years ago. To be successful in my own eyes I need to accept my real performance in the real world, to rewrite my plans accordingly, and it can be a painful experience.