Back in my 20's I had a girlfriend who simply could not handle the opportunistic, hit-or-miss nature of finding work in tech. I ended up breaking up with her.

Back in my 20's I had a girlfriend who simply could not handle the opportunistic, hit-or-miss nature of finding work in tech. I ended up breaking up with her. I just couldn't tolerate that kind of friction and lack of support when I was already under the pressure of a job transition. Even when I succeeded in landing a better paying job she was never truly happy for me. From my point of view it felt like a lack of trust. With the benefit of 20/20 hindsight, I see how I failed to understand the emotional burden I was asking her to carry for me.