How are they not valued? A stay at home mom lives the same lifestyle as the husband that works (and vice versa for stay at home dads). They live in the same hou

How are they not valued? A stay at home mom lives the same lifestyle as the husband that works (and vice versa for stay at home dads). They live in the same house, eat the same food, go on the same vacations... If you're doing those things for free then you're implicitly being paid equal to the other partner who's living the same lifestyle.