I'm really sorry that you found us to be hostile, and I apologize for any part that I played in that. I hope you believe that hostility isn't at all our intent

I'm really sorry that you found us to be hostile, and I apologize for any part that I played in that. I hope you believe that hostility isn't at all our intent -- in fact, I try very hard to be open to criticism -- so if you experienced hostility that's a failure. If you can, could you point to any specific moments -- mailing list threads, blog posts, responses on HN, IRC conversions, whatever -- that you felt to be hostile? I want to learn from my/our mistakes. Please feel free to post 'em here, or if you don't feel comfortable doing private email (jacob@jacobian.org) is fine, too.