You just described my experience as a first-time CEO/founder. One thing that helped me was getting better at expressing things in terms of what I needed & why

You just described my experience as a first-time CEO/founder. One thing that helped me was getting better at expressing things in terms of what I needed & why I needed them. It was extra important to make sure the person(s) with whom I spoke understood by explaining my request back to me. I didn't always get the exact results I expected, but I usually got what I needed, or an understanding that a different might be in needed. It also helped to only request things that I really needed.