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Lately, I can't help but notice the vast number of ways social media is deficient compared to real life. In real life, you get "circles" for free! Whoever you

Lately, I can't help but notice the vast number of ways social media is deficient compared to real life. In real life, you get "circles" for free! Whoever you are with in the current moment is your circle, and only they have access to what you "share" during that time period. There is some leaking through the grapevine, but we have an intution for that and usually handle it decently well. It's often even desired.

harlanji 9y ago
Did you finish high school before 2005ish? You may remember a time when 80% of the population didn’t have pizza neck, now it feels like it’s flipping. Since I lost 50lbs in 2013 (only carried for 2-3yr, BA food), there’s been much lifestyle reflection, been pretty unplugged since then. By all means use tech, but reflect on what it’s adding and conduct accordingly. Tech’s been my hobby and career forever; so much potential to empower, entertain, and aid in universe construction—of course the tool has two sides.
lmm 9y ago
> In real life, you get "circles" for free! Whoever you are with in the current moment is your circle, and only they have access to what you "share" during that time period. And the whole reason Facebook et al are popular is that in real life it's really hard to get all the people you want in the right "circles" (i.e. places) at the right times.
- dwaltrip 9y ago
  Facebook doesn't have the circle feature. It's publish to everyone only. You can send a group message, which I suppose can sort of function like a circle, especially if it's long lived. But it would hard to manage many of those.
  - lmm 9y ago
    Actually you can create a circle (might be called a list?) and publish just to that circle. People just mostly don't bother, because managing circles is so much effort.
    - CodeCube 9y ago
      correct ... unfortunately this feature has been super hidden over time in the FB UX. It's almost impossible to figure out unless you already know about it. I find it super useful when I specifically want to segment my audience. Don't do it with everyone that I'm 'friends' with, but for example, I have a 'kids' list for every underage person I'm friends with (my kids, nephews, nieces, etc), and I will exclude them from a post if it's non-kid appropriate. But as you mention, it's a pain to do this for everyone.
    - dwaltrip 9y ago
      Oh yeah.. I completely forgot about that, fair point.

harlanji 9y ago

Did you finish high school before 2005ish? You may remember a time when 80% of the population didn’t have pizza neck, now it feels like it’s flipping. Since I lost 50lbs in 2013 (only carried for 2-3yr, BA food), there’s been much lifestyle reflection, been pretty unplugged since then. By all means use tech, but reflect on what it’s adding and conduct accordingly. Tech’s been my hobby and career forever; so much potential to empower, entertain, and aid in universe construction—of course the tool has two sides.

lmm 9y ago

> In real life, you get "circles" for free! Whoever you are with in the current moment is your circle, and only they have access to what you "share" during that time period. And the whole reason Facebook et al are popular is that in real life it's really hard to get all the people you want in the right "circles" (i.e. places) at the right times.

dwaltrip 9y ago
Facebook doesn't have the circle feature. It's publish to everyone only. You can send a group message, which I suppose can sort of function like a circle, especially if it's long lived. But it would hard to manage many of those.
- lmm 9y ago
  Actually you can create a circle (might be called a list?) and publish just to that circle. People just mostly don't bother, because managing circles is so much effort.
  - CodeCube 9y ago
    correct ... unfortunately this feature has been super hidden over time in the FB UX. It's almost impossible to figure out unless you already know about it. I find it super useful when I specifically want to segment my audience. Don't do it with everyone that I'm 'friends' with, but for example, I have a 'kids' list for every underage person I'm friends with (my kids, nephews, nieces, etc), and I will exclude them from a post if it's non-kid appropriate. But as you mention, it's a pain to do this for everyone.
  - dwaltrip 9y ago
    Oh yeah.. I completely forgot about that, fair point.