For some reason I've always looked at friendship relationships as primarily creative. I don't like to be with people unless there is chemistry for a good conver

For some reason I've always looked at friendship relationships as primarily creative. I don't like to be with people unless there is chemistry for a good conversation that changes our perspectives or adds dimension, or if we are working on something. I don't like "hanging out" because that usually involves a lot of cleverness with humor (and my humor isn't clever-- what I find funny is usually when someone has made some ironic error in their thinking or behavior, and there aren't a lot of ways to communicate this socially without knowing how to set up a good story-- which I don't know how to do). Consequently, there are a handful of people I consider "good friends" but I don't see these people very often because our relationship is implicitly understood-- I'm here if you want advice, you're there if I want advice, and they know I'll flake if I get invited to something that seems to require anything more relaxed. I don't know why this is the case, but I can say that the friends I do have, despite barely seeing them in person, I cherish very much. The kind of people who are okay with that bond are usually beyond interesting, and I enjoy being around as they tell me about the exciting things they feel and think and experience. They all have such a way with putting their experiences and all the nuances into words that I can connect with. I don't think you can ever fully understand someone, but I understand my friends in the exact places that they understand me. Maybe that is what all friendships do, but I'm not sure. Just thought I'd share.