>when I was a kid, I was completely oblivious to the fact that my peers were agents in their own right, with thoughts and preferences and hopes and dreams that

>when I was a kid, I was completely oblivious to the fact that my peers were agents in their own right, with thoughts and preferences and hopes and dreams that might be different from my own. That, I am now given to understand, is the hallmark of autism spectrum disorders. I don't have any diagnosis of autism, so it might just simply be that I was a huge jerk for the first 20 or so years of my life. It may have been the consequence of developing academic skills several years ahead of other children my age (this too is a circumstance that must inevitably affect the developing mind). My experiences studying and traveling internationally as an adult were invaluable, forcing me to perceive and then confront this shortcoming in my own personality. When I discovered that many things I assumed were invariant bedrock assertions in fact vary greatly among other people, it was like I had to recreate my concept of others and self from the ground up to reconcile what I'd seen with my life experience to that point. I think I still approach social interactions analytically (coping) rather than intuitively but at least I've learned not to be so much of a jerk to others, or at the very least to be conscious of it and apologize when I am.