Be different if you want to. Don't give in to peer pressure. I think it was easier when I just saw it as peer pressure. In fact, I think the teenage maelstrom

Be different if you want to. Don't give in to peer pressure. I think it was easier when I just saw it as peer pressure. In fact, I think the teenage maelstrom of awful social bullshit made it too easy for me to hope that maybe I wasn't the problem. Then everyone grew up, people got a lot nicer, and I had to face up to the fact that I was constantly screwing up social situations that should be very easy for everyone involved. Encountering someone friendly at a social event who wants to talk to me and is curious about where I'm from and what I do. Seeing someone who feels awkward and out of place in a situation where the right words from me could put them at ease and make them feel welcome. After talking to me these people can feel less comfortable than they did before, and not eager for a second encounter. A poor social performance can undermine good feelings and compound bad ones. When I was a kid and was a misfit for a lot of reasons, many of them positive, I could frame it as simply "not fitting in," but now I have every advantage and every opportunity and I realize I still have to be right on top of my game to avoid bringing bad feelings into the world for other people.