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Please don’t adopt this kind of hostile style. It wrecks the whole conversation.

by jacobolus 9y ago

DoreenMichele 9y ago
I have been here 8.5 years. I appear to be the only woman to ever have made the leaderboard (under a different handle). I have had exactly one conversation with Thomas where I did not feel completely crapped all over while he routinely positions himself like he is some sort of advocate for women's inclusion. The discussion was wrecked for me the minute he decided to comment on something I have expertise in where I don't agree with him. It is never a positive experience for me to engage him, he can't be avoided and there is no remedy at all from my end for the situation.
- jacobolus 9y ago
  Edit 2: can a mod please delete this whole thread, starting 3 posts above this one? Arguing about whether tptacek does or does not regularly “crap on people” is neither productive nor topical.
  - DoreenMichele 9y ago
    You aren't a moderator here. You are just making this worse. And your comments are in violation of the guidelines just as much as mine are. Edit in reply to your edit: Maybe you haven't noticed the dearth of women on HN. There are lots of subtle ways to crap on someone. One of those is for all the guys to nitpick a woman's comments, shoot them down, never engage her in the same congenial fashion as the men and then downvote her comments to hell when she gets fed up with such patterns. Oh, and then bonus points for blaming the woman as if she is just wildly misinterpreting the consistent disrespect that she gets subjected to. Oh, and now you delete the edit I replied to, thus making me look unhinged. Sweet. And now you are imploring the mods to delete the evidence of your mistreatment of me without apologizing. It just gets dirtier and dirtier. And now you have deleted everything I replied to.
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Please don’t adopt this kind of hostile style. It wrecks the whole conversation.

by jacobolus 9y ago

Please don’t adopt this kind of hostile style. It wrecks the whole conversation.

DoreenMichele 9y ago
I have been here 8.5 years. I appear to be the only woman to ever have made the leaderboard (under a different handle). I have had exactly one conversation with Thomas where I did not feel completely crapped all over while he routinely positions himself like he is some sort of advocate for women's inclusion. The discussion was wrecked for me the minute he decided to comment on something I have expertise in where I don't agree with him. It is never a positive experience for me to engage him, he can't be avoided and there is no remedy at all from my end for the situation.
- jacobolus 9y ago
  Edit 2: can a mod please delete this whole thread, starting 3 posts above this one? Arguing about whether tptacek does or does not regularly “crap on people” is neither productive nor topical.
  - DoreenMichele 9y ago
    You aren't a moderator here. You are just making this worse. And your comments are in violation of the guidelines just as much as mine are. Edit in reply to your edit: Maybe you haven't noticed the dearth of women on HN. There are lots of subtle ways to crap on someone. One of those is for all the guys to nitpick a woman's comments, shoot them down, never engage her in the same congenial fashion as the men and then downvote her comments to hell when she gets fed up with such patterns. Oh, and then bonus points for blaming the woman as if she is just wildly misinterpreting the consistent disrespect that she gets subjected to. Oh, and now you delete the edit I replied to, thus making me look unhinged. Sweet. And now you are imploring the mods to delete the evidence of your mistreatment of me without apologizing. It just gets dirtier and dirtier. And now you have deleted everything I replied to.
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