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What behavior do you think constitutes "treating children with high expectation"? I have high expectations for my teenage son, but it doesn't seem to matter as

What behavior do you think constitutes "treating children with high expectation"? I have high expectations for my teenage son, but it doesn't seem to matter as he often does not meet those expectations. I actually do not fault him for "failing" my expectations because I understand that he isn't yet properly motivated. If I were him, without the understanding I now have regarding the importance of habit, the need for deep learning, or the compounding interest of knowledge, etc., I wouldn't be motivated to meet those expectations either. It seems to me that the key to nurturing success is building motivation, rather than having high expectation. The former is much harder than the latter. Or perhaps I'm "having high expectation" in a wrong way, and would love to learn how to do it right.

aerophilic 9y ago
For me, based on what I read, having high expectations is mainly about “seeing” someone as capable. Steven Covey talks about this in 7 habits with their child. If you inherently believe that a child can’t accomplish “x”. They feel and know that is the expectation. However, if you fundamentally “believe” they can do x, you are setting them up to accomplish x. But I must say, this is not something that can be faked. You have to genuinely believe the expectation. Kids are smart, and they will see through any fake beliefs you “think” you are imparting. It is important to value them for what they are, and inherently value how incredible they are.