The whole discussion in the article and on HN fits the general pattern of communication malfunctions when X is the only X in a sea of Y, which at least seems to

The whole discussion in the article and on HN fits the general pattern of communication malfunctions when X is the only X in a sea of Y, which at least seems to make it universally applicable and everyone's got some advice from once being the only X in a sea of Y. Or, are we/I missing something specific where being the only X is unique in the isolated case of a disabled kid? Something to do specifically with maternal or paternal instincts maybe? My point is if we can't define the problem accurately as a general issue or a very focused issue, then all the discussion will be at the wrong scale, if not outright wrong.