I think the problem is even in this thread some people in similar situation express a very different set of preferences on how someone should behave/interact wh

I think the problem is even in this thread some people in similar situation express a very different set of preferences on how someone should behave/interact which in natural as we are all different yet since people are afraid of offending someone and often have no basis for figuring out how a particular person feels and "what the rules are" they are afraid to interact in any way.