I think you're somewhat pulling that single line out of context. Here's the paragraph it's in >Kids with disabilities want to socialize; the need to affiliate

I think you're somewhat pulling that single line out of context. Here's the paragraph it's in >Kids with disabilities want to socialize; the need to affiliate is deeply human and present in all of us. Children like Esprit may not be able to participate exactly as typical kids do, but who cares? My wife would not have been indignant if a playdate had included more babies, so the typical kids could do typical kid stuff while Esprit watched. Just ask a disabled child's parents whether the planned activity will work for their son or daughter. If an adjustment is needed we can figure it out together. To be honest I liked the article and it makes a good case and has given me a new perspective. Especially this last one is quite morbid: >For parents of a severely disabled child, the big picture is dominated by a future cataclysm. For my wife and me, it's that, although Esprit has lived nearly 15 years, we will likely survive her. For other parents, it's that their child will likely survive them.