Plus he was paying for private school tuition at $44k a year. So sure maybe the budget was tight but he had an investment (the house) in that budget and yes yo

Plus he was paying for private school tuition at $44k a year. So sure maybe the budget was tight but he had an investment (the house) in that budget and yes your standard of living will be lower than somewhere cheaper (even though it is above most bay area folks)... so yes tone deaf.