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> I'm 26 and never used Facebook. I'm 31 and I've never used tobacco. If people who used tobacco just made better choices they could be like me. They really n

by astine 9y ago

> I'm 26 and never used Facebook. I'm 31 and I've never used tobacco. If people who used tobacco just made better choices they could be like me. They really need to ask themselves if tobacco really makes them happier. /s --- I suppose it's a bit facile to compare Facebook to an addictive drug, but the idea that just because you've never used Facebook, nobody else should want to doesn't make any sense. Not everybody's circumstances and background are going to look like yours and people will have different needs. My friends probably have a very different dynamic than your friends so what works for you might not work for me or vice-versa.

justherefortart 9y ago
If you're 31, you've had facebook for what 11 years of your life at most? How'd you survive the other 20. Needs, that's comical. Facebook is not a need.
- astine 9y ago
  I could obviously live without a Facebook account. My social life is just better with it than without it. Your circumstances might be different. The point is that everybody's circumstances are different so just because you don't derive value from a particular product or service doesn't mean that other people don't.
- twblalock 9y ago
  If you're going to be super-literal about the word "need" then we can include pretty much nothing other than water, food, and shelter as "needs." But we wouldn't have a very useful conversation if we did that.
SilasX 9y ago
A lot of the Facebook deletion advice comes down to: "I'm hypercompetent at managing my social life and am constantly invited to important events by direct contact, and barely remember what it would not be like to be that way, therefore I don't see a significant downside to immediate cessation of all FB use."
- 40acres 9y ago
  Well I think the fact of the matter is if you want to get rid of Facebook and / or social media while maintaining a social like you MUST become hyper competent at managing your social life. I moved across the country and had to rebuild my social network from scratch without social media, you can do this through sites like meetup or checking local event calender's. Once you meet some folks who you want to know better you can exchange numbers and quickly set up a coffee, tea, lunch, dinner thing and then get into the habit on checking up with them to see what they are doing. Once I established this relationship with people they began to invite me to things every once in a while, do this with 3-5 well connected friends and you should have options every weekend. People are outsourcing the management of their social life through Facebook, if you want to stop using Facebook you really need to take back control of managing your social network.
- sanderjd 9y ago
  I don't advocate Facebook deletion (or the opposite: people can do whatever they want as far as I'm concerned), I just constantly forget to use it. So your comment doesn't ring true to me: I'm not anywhere near socially "hyper competent", my life just isn't organized around being invited to "important events". I just go to work, go home, and ping my friends from time to time or respond to their pings if I want to hang out. It isn't clear to me where Facebook would be a critical tool in any of this.

by astine 9y ago

justherefortart 9y ago

If you're 31, you've had facebook for what 11 years of your life at most? How'd you survive the other 20. Needs, that's comical. Facebook is not a need.

astine 9y ago
I could obviously live without a Facebook account. My social life is just better with it than without it. Your circumstances might be different. The point is that everybody's circumstances are different so just because you don't derive value from a particular product or service doesn't mean that other people don't.
twblalock 9y ago
If you're going to be super-literal about the word "need" then we can include pretty much nothing other than water, food, and shelter as "needs." But we wouldn't have a very useful conversation if we did that.

SilasX 9y ago

A lot of the Facebook deletion advice comes down to: "I'm hypercompetent at managing my social life and am constantly invited to important events by direct contact, and barely remember what it would not be like to be that way, therefore I don't see a significant downside to immediate cessation of all FB use."

40acres 9y ago
Well I think the fact of the matter is if you want to get rid of Facebook and / or social media while maintaining a social like you MUST become hyper competent at managing your social life. I moved across the country and had to rebuild my social network from scratch without social media, you can do this through sites like meetup or checking local event calender's. Once you meet some folks who you want to know better you can exchange numbers and quickly set up a coffee, tea, lunch, dinner thing and then get into the habit on checking up with them to see what they are doing. Once I established this relationship with people they began to invite me to things every once in a while, do this with 3-5 well connected friends and you should have options every weekend. People are outsourcing the management of their social life through Facebook, if you want to stop using Facebook you really need to take back control of managing your social network.
sanderjd 9y ago
I don't advocate Facebook deletion (or the opposite: people can do whatever they want as far as I'm concerned), I just constantly forget to use it. So your comment doesn't ring true to me: I'm not anywhere near socially "hyper competent", my life just isn't organized around being invited to "important events". I just go to work, go home, and ping my friends from time to time or respond to their pings if I want to hang out. It isn't clear to me where Facebook would be a critical tool in any of this.