I don't think everyone needs their own facebook server (or diaspora in this case). I'm more in favor of the federated approach where a couple people run server

I don't think everyone needs their own facebook server (or diaspora in this case). I'm more in favor of the federated approach where a couple people run servers for their community (I run a server for a fandom community I participate in regularly). People that use my server play by my house rules, if they don't like that they can pick another server or run their own.