I'm in a relevant position - I'm a 25y/o male computer programmer who lives with (along with several other people, and not in a relationship with) a 27y/o femal

I'm in a relevant position - I'm a 25y/o male computer programmer who lives with (along with several other people, and not in a relationship with) a 27y/o female preschool teacher - we both represent the most common jobs for our gender according to the article. We both started college virtually opposing positions - I came in as an Art major, she a Bio major, with the intention of medical school. At some point, we both realized what we valued was incompatible with our majors - I wanted to build things, work on hard, concrete challenges, and make money, so I switched to CS. After she graduated, she took a long time reflecting on what she wanted in her future, and eventually realize what she wanted to do was to work with children (she has an extremely strong maternal personality), so she became a teacher, despite the pay and that she had the grades to go to medical school - to her, being able to work with kids and have a balanced life (impossible for years with medical school and residency) is far more meaningful than money. She also has a stable relationship with a caring boyfriend who also works, so her being able to complete support herself isn't a priority. I'm an extremely independent person (a stereotypically male trait), and am somewhat neurotic about money due to my parent's passed down habits. I wanted a job where I would have a good blend of financial stability, freedom, and challenge - software engineer checks all the boxes. I realize this is completely anecdotal, but also likely archetypal for many others. For what it's worth, I make much more than her, but she's a happier person than I am - despite her "losing out." We're measuring success wrong, at least for a large segment of the population.