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You can believe in yourself without faking anything, and it’s healthy to do so. Faking it implies you want to give others the impression you’re already a big s
by matte_black 9y ago
You can believe in yourself without faking anything, and it’s healthy to do so.
Faking it implies you want to give others the impression you’re already a big shot, and it dilutes out the accomplishments of people who actually made it.
The downside should be that if you’re faking it and you don’t make it, your shame should be relentless and brutal, and no one should ever take you seriously again. Also, even if you make it you will feel alone and empty in your success, because everyone will have long thought you already “made it” and you have to continue hiding your true story. There is no one to celebrate with except those who are also in on it.
Where as if you would have just been humble and true to where you currently are, people have headroom to express sympathy and support should you encounter a setback.
- gowld 9y agoaphorisms have established common meanings: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fake_it_till_you_make_it https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fake_it_till_you_make_it
- matte_black 9y agomeanings are not immutable
- heavenlyblue 9y agoNo, you just don’t want to admit that you don’t really know the generally-agreed meaning of that phrase.
- mnemonicsloth 9y ago> You can believe in yourself without faking anything... I don't think so. Self-doubt is natural. Mandatory, really. Someone who never has moments of self-doubt is a bad investment risk; it means they probably aren't thinking hard enough about what could go wrong. But concealing those doubts is also mandatory: if you can't, it may be a sign that you have more problems than you know how to deal with.
- matte_black 9y agoIt is not mandatory, it merely requires courage to go forward knowing you could fail and things could go wrong. If you choose to ignore it and fake your way up, you are not being brave, you are being delusional. I'm not sure if delusional people are good investments.