That depends on your parents class if your a bright working class kid whose parents didn't go to uni you don't get told the unspoken rules. You also don't have

That depends on your parents class if your a bright working class kid whose parents didn't go to uni you don't get told the unspoken rules. You also don't have access to the behind the scenes influence eg being a legacy at Harvard or similar, I was surprised to hear my mum saying I we had stayed in Brummagem they would have used my grandfathers influence to try and get me into King Edwards.