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I understand your position: talking/speaking is even a subset "actions", so it makes sense that the actions are more affective and informative - either directly
by dpflan 9y ago
I understand your position: talking/speaking is even a subset "actions", so it makes sense that the actions are more affective and informative - either directly or over time when your children reach different stages in life and understanding. I do have eureka moments about my parents' behavior at times, but sometimes hearing them say why behaved as they did / acted as they did / setting an example or a construct for me to live in, is very useful. It can be a fun conversation. It's as though you wait until the words will be truly meaningful.
- raarts 9y agoUpon re-reading I realize my last sentence did not come out exactly as I wanted to say it. What I really meant was that in the end (when they left the house) I realized that you both have and haven't a lot of influence on your children. And even though I'm really happy with the way they turned out, and we like patting ourselves on the back for that, it's just as true that things could have gone sideways so easily due to bad luck, circumstances, things not under our control. And all the good intentions beforehand notwithstanding: people have their faults, have bad days, can be unlucky. Love, understanding, empathy, and humility make life so much better for everyone.