I used to be like this several years ago but through reading, discussion and self-reflection, I've come to realize that these feelings come from within and may

I used to be like this several years ago but through reading, discussion and self-reflection, I've come to realize that these feelings come from within and may not mirror reality. These are thoughts that we put in our heads. In order to get out of it, we have to change our mindset. I would be happy to coach you through it but there is nothing wrong with being friendly while being strict. In fact, there are times when being strict is the right thing to do. There are different techniques that you can learn to communicate wrongdoings. There are also ways where you can exhibit how being transparent and making mistakes do not necessarily mean failure. When things are wrong, your team needs you to be honest with them. They want to do better. They want to perform to the best of their ability. Make it so that it's not about them but rather about the issue at hand. Let them come to the solution themselves. Let them want to fix it themselves. Do not blame the person but work together to resolve the issue.